Baby H | Birth Story

Friends, my little man is 7 weeks old (as of Friday)! Life has been good, hard, wonderful, exhausting, and more than I could have ever dreamed of. Before the time passed too quickly (I mean the past 7 weeks FLEW), I wanted to share his birth story. I have been a birth story junkie for quite a while and I love reading other’s stories and experiences. Our story may not be what I had hoped for, but it is our story and I am so thankful for it. This is going to be a long post (pictures too!), so just bare with me and if birth stories aren’t your thing then you might want to skip this post.

I was diagnosed with Placenta Previa around 20 weeks. We waited with hope and prayed it would resolve itself as Previa normally does. We went for a scan at 29 weeks feeling confident and much to our surprise, it seemed to be worse – not better. With a crushed spirit I began to come to terms with what would likely be a very different birth experience than I had once imagined. I began reading, researching and talking to as many people as I could to prepare myself for the best c-section experience I could have. With Previa a scheduled c-section around 37 weeks is the safest option as you need to avoid going into labor for the protection of mother and baby. Around 34 weeks we double checked my placenta (which hadn’t budged) and agreed with our Dr that a scheduled c-section at 37 weeks was the best plan. The date was picked and we left the appointment with me heading home and Husband heading back to work. We knew the day our son would arrive and it didn’t even feel real! March 3 would never be the same again.

It was so surreal knowing the day our sweet boy would arrive. Most talk about the whole having a baby experience has to do with your water breaking, rushing to the hospital unexpectedly, hours of horrible pain, and pushing the baby out of you. This was not going to be my experience. I traded this typical experience for being able to plan for a specific birthday. We spent the last 2.5 weeks cleaning, completing projects, and running errands. I was trying to feel as prepared as I could for this big change, but I quickly found there was no way to feel fully prepared so I just embraced the crazy and waited for that special day.

The night before the big day Husband and I went out to eat, grabbed some last minute things at Target (of course!), and enjoyed some Graeter’s Ice Cream. We came home and tried to finish getting the house ready as well as enjoying some time just us which included playing video games (per Husband’s request!). I finally went to bed sometime after 1am and hoped I would be able to sleep. I woke up at around 6 and started getting ready to leave. It was such a strange morning knowing in a few short hours we would be meeting our little boy. We took some final pictures, said a prayer and headed to the hospital.

We met my mom and sister at the hospital and they took me back to start getting me prepped. Most c-section patients are in a room with other patients before the surgery and only one other person can be with you at a time. However the hospital was super busy this day so I ended up getting to be placed in a labor & delivery room which meant Husband, my mom and sister could join me when I was ready. Such a blessing! I headed into my room and my sweet cousin who is an L&D nurse along with her awesome friend (who is like family!) were there to greet me. Her friend was my main nurse and she was such an encouragement and exactly what I needed through this whole experience. We talked, listened to Baby H’s heartbeat, got my IV’s in (yes TWO – they wanted to make sure I was ready for a blood transfusion in case of an emergency), and fully prepped me for surgery. My family quickly joined me and it was so nice having that time to just talk and rest before such a drastic life change. My nurse warned me that things were backed up so it would probably be a while before I went back and that was perfectly fine with me – I was in no rush.

While I was in no rush, I had one request, please just keep me updated so I had time to process and wouldn’t be rushed straight into surgery without time to mentally prepare. Well… a few things happened and they made a last minute decision to go ahead and take me back to surgery because if we didn’t do it now it could be a few hours and they didn’t want me to wait that long. I was immediately shaking as I attempted to mentally prepare myself and Husband was also looking a little pale which made me even more nervous! It was time – I walked back to the OR with the promise Husband would join me soon.

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Once in the OR I talked with my Dr and nurses about what to expect while we waited on the Anesthesiologist. We ended up waiting quite a while which ended up being a good thing as it gave me a chance to mentally prepare a little more. At this point I think I was still in shock or denial that I was about to have a baby! Finally the Anesthesiologist came in and it was time for things to officially begin and I knew things would move quickly at this point and we would be meeting our baby in just a few minutes.

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My OB, Nurse & Cousin/Nurse

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I was most nervous about the spinal block since that would be one of the main things I would actually feel. However, while it wasn’t comfortable it wasn’t exactly painful. It was probably the strangest sensation I’ve ever felt though and I’m not eager to experience it again anytime soon. I quickly felt the affects of the spinal block and unfortunately it somewhat overtook me. I felt lightheaded, I couldn’t breathe and I was sick to my stomach. My sweet nurse talked me through it encouraging me that my oxygen levels were fine and I just needed to breathe. I was given some medicine and I quickly felt better. It probably only lasted a few minutes, but during that short period of time I felt like I was going to die and I was terrified that I would feel that way the whole time and I didn’t think I could go through with it. I’m so thankful it passed so quickly. By the time Husband came in I was feeling wonderful and I was the one giving my nervous husband a pep-talk.

Not only did I have Placenta Previa, but Baby H was also Transverse (aka sideways) and up pretty high. We were prepared that multiple things could go wrong that could turn it into an emergency or could result in an additional incision. I was a bit nervous about the possible complications and later found out Husband was beyond nervous about what could go wrong on my side. God is good though and we avoided all complications.After what felt like a few short minutes I heard my sweet baby boy cry and then I saw his face. He was handed off to my cousin & nurse who checked him out to make sure he was okay. With being born at 37 weeks, he could have had lung issues or sugar issues (or other issues!) but thankfully he was perfect with no concerns. They invited Husband over to see him but he opted not to go since he would have had to have walked past me and my open incision to get to him ;). Thankfully I wasn’t too worried since I knew he was in good loving hands. After just a few short minutes he was placed skin-to-skin on my chest which resulted in some of the greatest moments of my life. I knew before hand that we would try for skin-to-skin but there was no guarantee we would be able to get him on my chest. Thankfully he was able to curl up on my chest and I was completely overwhelmed. I’d been dreaming of this feeling for SO LONG and it was finally here!

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Sweet vernix covered baby. 

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After a little while on my chest it was Husband’s turn. Our nurse cut open the scrub top he was “borrowing” so Baby H & Husband could have skin-to-skin time as well. Within a few minutes things were finished and it was time to send me back to my room. The hour in recovery was bliss as we bonded, breastfed, and cuddled this new bundle of total joy. Soon we were in our postpartum room and introducing him to family.

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That day was the longest, greatest, hardest day of my life. I can’t believe it’s been over 7 weeks since he came into our lives, I can’t imagine life without him in it. We’ve been dealing with some hard things which I’ll write more about soon, but I wouldn’t trade this motherhood gig for anything. Life is good.

April is Cesarean Awareness Month. This is my contribution to bringing awareness and normality. Sometimes, like when you have Placenta Previa, Cesarean’s truly are the only option. I still believe Cesarean’s occur far too often in situations where they aren’t truly needed, but when they are needed they are still a wonderful option for birthing your baby. Your story is not ruined just because your baby was birthed via surgery instead of vaginally. It is still your wonderful birth story. 

 

Welcome Baby H!

On March 3 our sweet little boy made his entrance into the world. He is precious, cuddly, and so much more than I ever dreamed. The last 4 weeks have been wonderful & exhausting but I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Parenthood is so incredibly difficult and we’ve already been handed some cards we weren’t expecting, but raising this little human is the greatest calling in the world and it is worth every sleepless night and tear shed. We praise God for this life He has entrusted to us!

Welcome Baby H, we are so very glad you are here. 

Baby Dean | 35 Weeks

35 weeks?! What!? How is it possible that we are SO CLOSE to the end of this pregnancy? Honestly for the most part this pregnancy has gone by pretty quickly. We are down to the last few weeks and I wanted to give a little update on how things have been, in just a few short weeks our sweet boy will be in our arms and I absolutely cannot wait!

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Size: GROWING!!! He might be a little bigger than average, but he is growing wonderfully and I would much rather him be growing too much than not growing at all.

Movement: He moves so much these days and I am dreading this stage being over. His daily movements give me so much joy and I know I will miss this special connection with him so much. He gets the hiccups at least once a day and at our ultrasound this week I got to feel and see his hiccups – SO AMAZING. I love watching my belly move as he shifts around in there, sometimes I just sit there and poke and watch his movement responses. Again, movement is such an amazing part of pregnancy.

Development: This little boy is nearly ready to make his appearance. According to my pregnancy apps he’s just finishing getting his lungs ready and growing, but most of the major development is done. It’s such a reassuring feeling knowing that he is basically ready to join us here, it takes away some of the anxious feelings for sure.

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Looking forward to: Seeing this sweet boy’s face. We have almost everything we need and our home is almost ready to welcome him, his little clothes have been washed and folded and now I am just SO READY to hold him in my arms and see his sweet face. This time is so very exciting, scary, and unknown but I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

Aches & Pains: I’m knocking on wood over here, but I have seriously been SO blessed with a generally easy pregnancy. I keep waiting for it all to fall apart, but other than going to the bathroom constantly and a bit of back pain, things haven’t been bad. My biggest praise? Guys – I have been able to sleep SO MUCH. I have heard so many horror stories about pregnancy sleep & insomnia I was truly scared, but my body cooperated so well and sleep has not left the building – yet.

Health: On my last official baby update 13 weeks ago I mentioned a few possible complications I was experiencing. Things have been great overall but unfortunately my Placenta Previa still hasn’t resolved itself. Because of this, Baby H will be entering the world via c-section. I’m feeling a lot better about this overall, but it’s still taking some processing and I feel a little fear & sadness over the whole thing. However we are feeling overwhelmingly thankful for modern medicine and that the Dr’s were able to catch it and handle it accordingly. We are in good hands with our Dr, hospital staff and most importantly the Great Physician.

 

The Deans Eat // Eighty

I can’t believe the first month of 2017 is finished! January was full of lots of unexpected changes and honestly I spent most of the month trying to adjust both mentally and physically. It was full of rest, lots of quiet time, and taking a little time for me before life changes AGAIN when Baby H makes his entrance into the world. With February’s arrival I’m officially in GET THINGS DONE mode. We have just a few short weeks until a baby takes over our lives and I’m feeling the pressure to get us prepared in every possible way. One of those things is getting a few blog posts up this month, and still connecting with this space. I promise to have at least a few special posts this month so be on the lookout.

This past weekend, we headed to WV one last time before Baby H arrives. Our family and close friends showered us with lots of love and gifts for our transition to parenthood. I was blown away by friends and family that traveled many hours, adjusted work schedules, and came to celebrate with us. It was a jam packed weekend and so very bittersweet as we knew the next time we would be in that place and with those people there would be a baby to pass around. So many emotions that I can’t even begin to process quite yet.

We got home yesterday evening to a mostly clean house and I started working on a to-do list full of things that need to be done this week as well as things that need to be accomplished before we have this baby. First on that list per the norm was meal planning. Honestly, I was not feeling the meal plan this week, but it’s done and we won’t go hungry, so that’s a good thing. I was going to go grocery shopping today while Husband worked, then it hit me that grocery shopping by myself would not be an easy task at 8 months pregnant when I’m supposed to be taking things easy and avoiding lifting too much. So I ran to the store for the necessities for tonight’s dinner and I will have to tackle the grocery store with Husband in tow later on. Checkout what we are eating this week below!

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MONDAY | Spaghetti, Caesar Salad & Garlic Bread

TUESDAY | Pork Chops, Mashed Potatoes & Veggies

WEDNESDAY | Chicken Fajitas

THURSDAY | Family Dinner @ Small Group

FRIDAY | Shepherd’s Pie

SATURDAY | Spicy Italian Panini’s and Mac & Cheese

SUNDAY | Brunch & Eating out (or make-up meal)

Currently | January 2017

I figured the only way to start 2017 was by joining in with one of my favorite link-ups. Check below to see what I’m up to currently! Thanks to Anne and Jessica for hosting this great link-up.

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GATHERING | All of the baby things! Baby H will be making his arrival in less than THREE MONTHS and we are definitely gathering more baby things. I would say you can spot a little baby something in almost each room of our home at this point. I have a feeling after our baby shower in less than a month it will be a full on baby explosion in this apartment and I don’t think I could be any happier about that!

MAKING | A plan! Some pretty big life changes have happened recently and will continue to happen over the coming months. My days look a little different than they have in the past and I have a lot to accomplish before the biggest life change of all happens in March. So I’m looking around, writing down plenty of lists and making a plan for how I will be attacking it all.

SIPPING | Water! I got an awesome RTIC stainless steel tumbler for Christmas and it’s definitely helping me get more water in my system. I’ll admit I don’t love drinking water, but it’s nice to be able to just sip on an ice cold water all day.

FOLLOWING | All the mommy blogs and Instagram accounts. I’ve always loved following these types of blogs/accounts but now as I look at this being my life pretty soon I enjoy it even more. My favorites? A few sweet mommas who’s due dates are very close to mine. I love following along with their journey’s too!

RESOLVING | To embrace all of the beautiful, hard, messy things life throws at me. More on this soon.